As The Healer, you are a study in generosity. You give what you have and your kindness and magnanimity make the world go round.

Like the ancient Roman Healer Fabiola, or the Mother Theresas and Princess Dianas of the world, you share your resources, your time, and your energy with care and thoughtfulness for the greatest good. And we give thanks.

While it’s true that generous people have more to give, even more true is that resourced people have more to give. And so it’s important that you keep your own resources intact. If you don’t attend to your resources, you may find yourself resentful at best, and burnt out at worst.

Said more plainly: You have an abundance of resources...but not infinite. You have an abundance of capacity...but not infinite.

And this tendency to put everyone else’s needs ahead of your own can look a LOT like leaky boundaries.

Let me explain: to avoid feeling like a fraud, the Imposter Complex has us hide out in certain behaviours: procrastination, perfectionism, comparison, people-pleasing, diminishment, or in your case: LEAKY BOUNDARIES.

Listen, generosity is a beautiful thing. And so are boundaries. And when we allow them to become leaky, we tend to do things out of obligation (which can breed resentment), we tend to overshare information about ourselves, and we tend to give greater weight to others’ opinions over our own. In short, it’s hard to tell where we end and someone else begins. 

This is especially dangerous for coaches, service providers, and entrepreneurs, because it leads to co-dependent clients, scope creep, and resentment.

The good news is, by respecting your own boundaries, you also teach others to respect them. AND you embody a kind of integrity that is irresistibly magnetic, while  creating the kind of impact you yearn to create in your business, vocation and leadership. And STILL be deeply generous.